"Tring Tring, my phone rang... Hello?
Hello? I call off my marriage.... She said
What? It's only ten days left for your marriage. What went wrong? Did they ask for dowry? I asked her in a panic voice
"I will tell you once I join the office"
She is my colleague,
Amrita Ghosh, a 30-year old jovial lady and I know her for two years, after I
joined the company. In one word, she is the “apple of company’s eyes”. When she
broke the news of her marriage, I was very happy and excited at the same time. I
met her would-be-groom too. I heard all the shopping stories for her marriage.
She was very excited about her wedding dress, makeup and collections of
jewelry. She always wanted the best for her marriage.
When a girl calls
off her marriage, then don’t you think there is something really serious? Wedding
is a special day for all girls and they plan this day to make it the memorable
one. It is a day when “a daddy’s little princess also turn into a loving and
responsible partner for the man of her life.”
Amrita is an
independent, 30-year old girl who loves her friends, family and loves to talk a
lot. The family decided the groom for her and eventually, both the girl and boy
liked each other. Everything was fine for two to three months (as you know it
happened in every arrange marriage.) The groom was in a white collar profession,
but she slowly she found a man with a black heart. She is very practical in her
thoughts yet emotional at the same time. Her independence is in her thoughts
and not in her appearance, or the way she dress up or hang out with her
friends.
In her words, “the
man was a “social gentleman” who wanted a wife with good education, “sati
savitri appearance” and who will consider his family at the top most. He is a
social gentleman so he never says “NO” on my face on the decisions that I take.
But, he will make you understand with his clever words that he is not in favor
of my decision.”
I was completely taken
aback with her words. She is a girl of today where she works in an office, take
care of her mother and balance both personal and professional life. Is it wrong
to have her mind? Is there any division of work between men or women? Well, our
society thinks so, but she does not think like that. That’s the main problem of
so-called “social gentleman”. It seems that a girl is only born to get name and
recognition from this marriage
material man. For an
independent girl, who love to enjoy life, travel, these social norms are just claustrophobic.
She showed patience
for 5 to 6 months for the sake of her Mother and family because her relatives
will repeat the same old question again “Kobe korbi biye?” (When will
you marry?”). She never wanted this experience from marriage or from her
partner and finally, she made up her mind and called off her marriage to live
her life with independent thoughts.
Will you marry again? I asked her
She replied- Yes,
of course, why not, marriage is such a beautiful thing, but not till I find
someone eligible to my thoughts and not my appearance.
In India, women are basically
judged on their looks, and whether they can look after the family after
marriage and carry on with all household chores. As per statistics-
- 69% of men agree that their judgement of women is based on their looks.
- 64% of women agree that the judgments passed on them have affected their ability to reach their true potential.
- 70%of women agree that majority of judgments on women are from family members or friends rather than strangers.
- 72% of women agree that working women face more judgments on their looks or their clothes than housewives.
I’m breaking stereotypes based on appearance by sharing my
experience for the#IAmCapable activity at BlogAdda in association with Nihar Naturals.
Blogging comes to my life with just a click on the Blogger.com in the year 2012. That time, I was not sure what should I write? Should I share my personal thoughts or my experience?
Slowly, I moved on with blogging and catch up the track of the platform. But, all bloggers need good readers, so do I. It will give your thoughts new lights and you can connect with many people. Slowly, I learned to attract my readers and my confidence takes to a next level.
Being associated with Kolkata Bloggers help me to know what blogging workshop is. It was a great experience with Anirban Saha and Arjyak (owners of Kolkata Bloggers). They are very spontaneous, active and enthusiastic in their initiative.
They talked about the words and numbers for your blog. Many people do blog, but unaware of the rank and number facts. This workshop helps the bloggers of this age to pen down their ideas systematically. I got to learn many new facts and as a blogger it was my first exposure to a blogging workshop.
I had a great time with Kolkata Bloggers members. Next time, if you want some tips on blogging, then do attend this type of workshop.
Happy Blogging!
Recently, Kolkata witnessed a wintry afternoon calendar launch by a Tollywood photographer Mr.Sudip Majumder. Thanks to my hubby, that I got this opportunity to pen down my thoughts of a calendar launch. Sudip, the photographer happens to be my husband’s
school friend. It is a total starry afternoon at Hastagwaale (food hub) where
music artists, Joy Sarkar, Lopamudra Mitra and Manali Dey light up the moments with
their down-to-earth personalities.
In the words of Sudip Majumder, “The theme of 2016 calendar launch is Mood of Reflection. I used only
the studio lights to capture the oomph factors of all the 12 models and there
is no use of camera flash. It is my third year of calendar and I am really
happy to bring some uniqueness through my lenses.”
Some models like Aparajita Ghosh, Ridhima Ghosh, Koushani
Mukherjee are the Tollywood (West Bengal) and beside them there are models like
Upasana Acharya, Susmita Chaterjee, Diti Saha, Rituparna Basak, Deblina Biswas,
Megha Choudhury, Darshana Banik, Sneha Ghoshal are the different moods or you
can say the faces of 2016 calendar.
So, add up some spice in your drawing room with an
interesting calendar and change your mood every month.
#Mondaymusings
