The night is dark

My eyes are still open

So many tales to share

But, no one to hear

As morning kisses my eyes

I wear the smile

Gulp down my tales

Inside my little heart

Time flies…

My tales are still unheard

I am a mess

It's hard to control

But, no one to look at me

Deep inside

The night is dark

My eyes are still open!!

“I am writing a letter about how a mother teaches honesty to her child with the Max Life Insurance i-genius #YoursHonestly activity in association with BlogAdda.”

My dear lovely Maa,

It was 27^th September, 1987 when I first met with you crying out loud so that you can take me in your arms and embrace me with all your love. For me, you are my comfort zone where I can rest my body and talk for hours. I am blessed to have you as my mother. The rules and principles you taught me are indispensable and still works today though I am a married woman now.

You never showed extra pamper and spoon-fed me during my growing age and I am grateful to you Maa. You make me a self-independent, confident girl and I can take care of myself in any situation. It is your confidence in me that make me so strong in life. Even if I cry, or breakdown in any situation I can again stand up and face the reality of the world. Maa, did you remember?-One day when I was coming from school and it was so hot outside that you want me to wear light clothes in the house, but I wanted to wear heavy dress. You got so angry that you make me wear 17 dresses and like a “fat cat” I had my lunch after that. Ha ha ha…I know you remember and you must be smiling now. Within 10 minutes, I understood why you said me to wear light clothes and stay relaxed during summer. After so many years, it only bring giggles on my face.

You never express your care through words, but your action says everything. In another incident i.e. in my cousin’s marriage, I could not take part because of my graduation exam and when you asked “what I ate?” I told you the truth of PG food, but later on my cousins told me that you were crying silently and you did not ate the menus of the marriage. A Maa can only make such sacrifices. I accept, that I did not have a friend like relationship with you, but your honesty taught me to become an honest person. When I had a first relationship in my life, it was you whom I told first and never lie to you and it was “you” who told me whether the relationship will work or not. Today, I am lucky that I follow your words and understand how is our society? Though lately.

#YoursHonestly

Dipannita (Anwei, munai)

“I am writing for the #ShareTheLoad activity at BlogAdda.com in association withAriel.”

“Sharing is Loving”

I am 28, I am a professional and I am married. My husband and I share a good rapport, but when it comes to sharing household chores I am quite lucky. He is a modern age man who does not feel shy to share the household work with me. I must say, he is a great cook and after office, he spends more time in the kitchen helping me in cutting vegetables, washing the utensils and cooking. It is good to see him cooking because he is a foodie and me too and when I am bored with my cooking, he is there to help me out. The good thing is that when he is in the kitchen, I can look after the laundry and cleaning of the house at weekends. Trust me, it saves our time and we spend quality time in the evening.

Are you jealous? Well, it is not your fault if your man is not helping you in the household chores. After all, we live in India and we are blessed with patriarchal ideology. 90% of men love to give orders to their wives and the “Sati Savitri” women are ready to oblige the orders of their “Pati Parmeshwar”. Thanks, that my husband belongs to that 10% who understand the equality in household chores and never leave me alone with washing, cleaning, laundry and cooking. India’s social custom did not allow the men to work at home and if they do so they are called “ladies”. It is a sick mentality, but it is changing slowly because of the nuclear family concept. Most couples live in metropolitan cities because of work commitments and at the end of the day doing these household chores give them the time to spend together and exchange sweet words.

Don’t you think sharing the household chores is a good idea? Most importantly, it will help you come closer to your partner both psychologically and physically. After a tiring day, a sweet smile of your spouse will fix your spoil mood and increase the level of happy hormone. In fact, the household chores make you active and fit and you can overcome the drowsiness. I know, society does not take this matter in a good way and not even your in-laws. But, it is the understanding between you and your partner that will strengthen your relationship and everyone will understand automatically. To me, there should be equality in household chores and share a good bond as a happy married couple.

Today, my marriage has become 6 months old and first heart touching words I heard from my husband is “You look tough outside, but actually you are soft inside… like a Coconut”

I pounce back “Me a Coconut”…errrrrrrrrr. But, jokes apart, I truly smiled inside that how a new person in my life understands me so well. I think that is why it is called BETTER HALF.

These 6 months are really the happening phase of my life. When a girl enters into a new family as the bride, she has many responsibilities. Didn’t I sound stereotypical? I cannot help because even my parents teach me these words. But, clapping with one hand is not possible. So, responsibilities come from both ends. That is where; my husband opens his arms for me. It takes time to understand a new family, the strength of a family and most importantly shortfalls of the family.

Every girl is an individual before she is a wife or a new member in the In-laws family. In-laws making her comfortable in the new family encourage her to appreciate the family members and vice-versa. My husband always provides me the space, which I deserve. As individuals, we are totally different to each other. Still, we are taking lovely efforts to understand deeply.

I think it is good to be different as an individual. In that way, you know the strength and weakness of each other. The reasons are simple:

New difference, new growth- Talking about the same topic will bring boredom at certain times. But, if you have two different topics, then you definitely share more knowledge. I like to talk about romances while my husband is too practical. Sometimes, it irritates me, but later on his practical knowledge helps me to take strong decisions for myself and my dreams.

Opposite attraction is strong- Difference in view leads to conflicts. The question is not who wins, but how we meet these challenges and get success in our relationship. Each day brings something new in our relationship. Certainly, attraction of opposite personalities always works. (Well, god’s grace it is working in my case.)

Balance in married life- Understanding in married life come if you understand your partner. I am a girl with too much life, friendly, energetic, impatient and great dreamer. Well, my compatible husband is calm, patient and practical. Initially, it takes time for us to understand each other. But now, that we know each other’s persona we are in a magical journey called MARRIAGE.

In the matter of values, we are like-minded people who live simple life with a positive outlook. Now, whenever there are any differences between us, we are clear to sort the problems sooner.

"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart." - Helen Keller

When you are in a long distance relationship, you are mature enough to handle the relationship. This kind of relationship needs responsibility and rational thought. These days, people are staying away from family, love and native place due to various reasons:

1. Education
2.  Job
3. Social activity

But, these activities do not force anyone to stop loving. Long distance relationship is a not an action, but an understanding between partners. When your love is far from you, each day is like a year. Some people find it very hard to maintain a long distance relationship. This result in regular fight, anguish, distrust and finally the relationship ends up in bad taste.

With my experience, I like to share my thoughts on a long distance relationship....

  Cut down the Ego- Where there is ego, there is no love. Whether it is personal ego or      professional ego, it kills the long distance relationship with time. Flow the love without ego. You will explore exciting moments in love.

Not all couples possess the same attributes in a long distance relationship. However, the above points will make your love grow strong and healthy. After all, love is an emotion that keeps both partners together for the entire life.

Love to hear your experience....