“I am
writing a letter about how a mother teaches honesty to her child with the Max Life Insurance
i-genius #YoursHonestly activity in association with BlogAdda.”
My dear lovely Maa,
It was 27th September, 1987 when I first met with you crying out loud so that you can take me in your
arms and embrace me with all your love. For me, you are my comfort zone where I
can rest my body and talk for hours. I am blessed to have you as my mother. The
rules and principles you taught me are indispensable and still works today
though I am a married woman now.
You never showed extra pamper and
spoon-fed me during my growing age and I am grateful to you Maa. You make me a
self-independent, confident girl and I can take care of myself in any
situation. It is your confidence in me that make me so strong in life. Even if I
cry, or breakdown in any situation I can again stand up and face the reality of
the world. Maa, did you remember?-One day
when I was coming from school and it was so hot outside that you want me to
wear light clothes in the house, but I wanted to wear heavy dress. You got so
angry that you make me wear 17 dresses and like a “fat cat” I had my lunch
after that. Ha ha ha…I know you remember and you must be smiling now. Within 10
minutes, I understood why you said me to wear light clothes and stay relaxed
during summer. After so many years, it only bring giggles on my face.
You never express your care
through words, but your action says everything. In another incident i.e. in my
cousin’s marriage, I could not take part because of my graduation exam and when
you asked “what I ate?” I told you the truth of PG food, but later on my
cousins told me that you were crying silently and you did not ate the menus of
the marriage. A Maa can only make such sacrifices. I accept, that I did not
have a friend like relationship with you, but your honesty taught me to become
an honest person. When I had a first relationship in my life, it was you whom I
told first and never lie to you and it was “you” who told me whether the
relationship will work or not. Today, I am lucky that I follow your words and
understand how is our society? Though lately.
#YoursHonestly
Dipannita (Anwei, munai)
“Sharing
is Loving”
I
am 28, I am a professional and I am married. My husband and I share a good
rapport, but when it comes to sharing household chores I am quite lucky. He is
a modern age man who does not feel shy to share the household work with me. I
must say, he is a great cook and after office, he spends more time in the
kitchen helping me in cutting vegetables, washing the utensils and cooking. It
is good to see him cooking because he is a foodie and me too and when I am
bored with my cooking, he is there to help me out. The good thing is that when
he is in the kitchen, I can look after the laundry and cleaning of the house at
weekends. Trust me, it saves our time and we spend quality time in the evening.
Are
you jealous? Well, it is not your fault if your man is not helping you in the
household chores. After all, we live in India and we are blessed with
patriarchal ideology. 90% of men love to give orders to their wives and the “Sati
Savitri” women are ready to oblige the orders of their “Pati Parmeshwar”.
Thanks, that my husband belongs to that 10% who understand the equality in
household chores and never leave me alone with washing, cleaning, laundry and
cooking. India’s social custom did not allow the men to work at home and if
they do so they are called “ladies”.
It is a sick mentality, but it is changing slowly because of the nuclear family
concept. Most couples live in metropolitan cities because of work commitments
and at the end of the day doing these household chores give them the time to
spend together and exchange sweet words.
Don’t
you think sharing the household chores is a good idea? Most importantly, it
will help you come closer to your partner both psychologically and physically. After
a tiring day, a sweet smile of your spouse will fix your spoil mood and
increase the level of happy hormone. In
fact, the household chores make you active and fit and you can overcome the
drowsiness. I know, society does not take this matter in a good way and not
even your in-laws. But, it is the understanding between you and your partner
that will strengthen your relationship and everyone will understand
automatically. To me, there should be equality in household chores and share a
good bond as a happy married couple.
Last
week we went to Siliguri, West Bengal. It is our hometown and much needed break
for me and my husband. For last 3 months my mother-in-law and father-in-law is
staying with us in Kolkata. So, it is really very hard for us to find ‘couple
times’ as we both have our work commitments plus household duties. I leave for
office at 9.00 A.M and return home at 8 pm and after that I had to take care of
the household chores, cook for my family and take care of the entire family
including my brother-in-law who works
in TCS and stay with us in Kolkata.
It
was November last year that I met with my parents and visited Siliguri. It was
my inner frustration that exploded on my husband and finally he decided to take
me to Siliguri for a small vacation. I was very happy and finally relaxed to
spend some time with my husband. We book our tickets for last Friday and we
came back to Kolkata on Monday morning. It is an overnight journey from Kolkata
to Siliguri. I was very happy and was like the
top of the world. We shared lots of words with each other and it was a very
soul satisfying for both of us.
Unfortunately,
our journey was late by four hours and we reached Siliguri in the afternoon.
But, that does not matter when you are coming close to your roots, parents and
love. After we reached, we visited our house and then reached my parents house
and finally took rest there. We were lucky to taste the delicious dishes made
by MAA
and all of us speak out our heart to the fullest after so many months. In the
evening, we are all ready to visit my uncle’s house and they were overwhelmed
as it was my first visit with husband after marriage. I and my sister talks a
lot and it seems that the discussions are endless.
After
the visit, my husband and I went to the market for some street shopping in my
Scooty and suddenly there was a hailstorm, wind blowing heavily and it was
raining cats and dogs. We took a shelter in a shop. Due to heavy storms, there
was no electricity and when the rain finally stops, we came back home. We
enjoyed candle light dinner at home and it was little freezing outside.
Overall, the feeling was just awesome after a long time.
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After
a long time, I slept in my room and all my childhood memory flashes in front of
eyes. Immediately, I share some of my
sweet little memories with my husband and
most sweetly he listened to each of my words and was taking part in the
communication with interest. Next day, we head out to Sukna in our Scooty, it
is a place near Siliguri. The chill breeze and the hillside river completes our
day and make the trip refreshing like never before.
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